Serenity Prayer

A nifty tool -

According to Wiki - The Serenity Prayer is the common name for a prayer written by the American theologian Reinhold Niebuhr (1892–1971). The best-known form is:
"God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, And wisdom to know the difference."
Serenity with yourself, and with others and with some sort of higher power, giving us a greater purpose, a good formula for life.

Serenity with me... Means looking in the mirror and smiling, being content with who and what I am, being humble to my limitations, and empowered by capabilities and relationships that enhance my experience.

Serenity with others... Means acknowledging there are 7 billions flavors of humanity, 7 billion opinions, 7 billion sets of fears and mine is just one of a vast collective. You gain knowledge and empathy by asking questions and listening, not by moving your own mouth.

Serenity with God... Or Buddha, or Allah, or Messiah, or a "Power of …


An interesting topic the other night.

So the easy definitions are "a refusal to satisfy a request or desire" - or a "refusal to admit the truth or reality of something".

Yeah - pretty much everyone does that at times. You get denied something - or when something doesn't go right - you are in denial of the issue or your involvement. 
However - a much more serious definition is also had when it comes to the human mind. In psychology, Denial is defined as "a defense mechanism in which confrontation with a personal problem or with reality is avoided by denying the existence of the problem or reality"
Simply put, your mind says - nope -  not dealing with that right now.  
Left unchecked - these events fester and boil, causing fear and tensions - and we often self-medicate to alleviate the mental pain   The compartmentalized issues can linger for years.
Interestingly -  the 12 Step program has a great way of dealing with this.  It's really nothing to do …

Holy S4!^

So my spiritual boat was rocked this week - a Holy S4!^ - kinda understanding that's I've had something all wrong. Thought I'd share...

One sentence back-story - I lived in a spiritual void for decades - about 4 1/2 years ago dark moments brought me to spiritual awakening - over the years I have slowly started to immerse myself in the religions of men again... that's where it gets complicated.

So in the past few months - Found myself hanging with the 7th Day Bible thumpers... intense scholars - what better I thought? Noticed first off they do worship on Saturdays... odd for me - and they are VERY vehement about it - a marketing differentiator I thought - clever. Obsessive it seemed - and after time - it repeatedly seemed to be a holier than though - we've got it right thing - which rubbed me wrong... and Saturday - what?

OCD Me... had to investigate - Columbo on the case... here are my findings.

Fact - Ten Commandments - from God - Sabbath Keep it Holy - #4 - We get…

My Quest

OK -  so this was not much of a Quest - more so in name.  After two failed attempts to find a place and time to pee for people that cared about my pee -  because they were getting paid to... I had success!  Quest Diagnostics!

I am starting a new job in January - that's usually a positive thing - and this is -  better expectations - money - etc.  But what I found somehow odd this time was the whole "Drug Testing" thing.

I've done it before - It's very 'normal' now for companies to test people for substance abuse - I am assuming it's illegal substances they check for. Okay - so maybe I had too much coffee - but while sitting there with the prescribed 'full bladder' - I had a brain fart.

Waiting for my turn-in of the urin - my brain began a churnin. 

So it's common practice today tto spend many thousands of dollars a year finding new people you want among all the rest of your current employees. But now you don't trust that they are not dr…

Unwritten Rules

Some kids were playing soccer - and a new kid comes along.  He'd never played before.  They said the rules were simple - don't touch the ball with your hands or arms - get it in the goal.  The new kid played along - but was not as skilled and went home frustrated.

The following day -  the new kid came back - with a trick- he knelt down, scooped the ball up with his shirt - into his belly, never touching it with his hands and arms, and ran to the goal with the ball under his shirt and dumped the ball in.

Everyone laughed and cheered as he did it, it was really funny to watch. And his goal won the game... or did it?  He missed the intent of the game. Technically he followed the rules, the ball never touched his hands. But he did not know about or care about all the unwritten rules. He did not play the game the way the other kids did as he saw them playing. That was too difficult.

Technically, the new kid got the goal... but soon after - the laughing stopped - no one was happy. …

Election 2016

First - Glad THAT's over....

Second - I lean Republican in my beliefs of less Federal Government - Small Business Friendly - but also have environmental and people concerns. I think National Healthcare of some sort is needed, only because the companies that run Healthcare are National - it's impossible and inefficient for them to navigate 50 sets of State Rules.

OK - Policy and preference aside - Results -  we all lost in this election. Just ask most any Kid, they are a great barometer of how stupid we adults are. I have teens - trust me.  Humility comes easy when I am with them!

So what did we elect - If you look at him literally - we elected a narcissist, bigoted, women fondling guy that wants to herd Mexicans back South and Muslims back East. He wants to undo everything that was done - and change all. Really upsetting - but really - I think it's all a lie.

What we really elected was a Salesman - a Showman - a Manipulator of the Media - and a guy playing "Trump the …


A spiritual Awakening described. Self-Transcendence Self Sacrifice. The self, melting away. Something triggers in some people - this change. It's an amazing experience. It is described by Bill Wilson the founder of AA. Spirituality is a key component to inner peace and success in many recovery programs. Having a sense of spirituality gives a person a sense of belonging. 
When we initiated the JUST SAY NO program, it started the fast acceleration of locking up the people who needed help the most. Removing them from the tribe of society,putting them into another tribe. One they find very hard to assimilate out of. We make matters worse, by releasing these people from Prison tribes, into isolation. These people feel alone re-entering society. They are scared, monitored, made felt less than worthy, not embraced back into the society tribe... and they fail. 

Modern Societ promotes self-medicating - and self-indulgence and flies against this growth. We incarcerate addicts - exacerbatin…