According to Wiki - The Serenity Prayer is the common name for a prayer written by the American theologian Reinhold Niebuhr (1892–1971). The best-known form is: "God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, And wisdom to know the difference."
Serenity with yourself, and with others and with some sort of higher power, giving us a greater purpose, a good formula for life.
Serenity with me... Means looking in the mirror and smiling, being content with who and what I am, being humble to my limitations, and empowered by capabilities and relationships that enhance my experience.
Serenity with others... Means acknowledging there are 7 billions flavors of humanity, 7 billion opinions, 7 billion sets of fears and mine is just one of a vast collective. You gain knowledge and empathy by asking questions and listening, not by moving your own mouth.
Serenity with God... Or Buddha, or Allah, or Messiah, or a "Power of …
So the easy definitions are "a refusal to satisfy a request or desire" - or a "refusal to admit the truth or reality of something".
Yeah - pretty much everyone does that at times. You get denied something - or when something doesn't go right - you are in denial of the issue or your involvement.
However - a much more serious definition is also had when it comes to the human mind. In psychology, Denial is defined as "a defense mechanism in which confrontation with a personal problem or with reality is avoided by denying the existence of the problem or reality"
Simply put, your mind says - nope - not dealing with that right now.
Left unchecked - these events fester and boil, causing fear and tensions - and we often self-medicate to alleviate the mental pain The compartmentalized issues can linger for years.
Interestingly - the 12 Step program has a great way of dealing with this. It's really nothing to do …
Some kids were playing soccer - and a new kid comes along. He'd never played before. They said the rules were simple - don't touch the ball with your hands or arms - get it in the goal. The new kid played along - but was not as skilled and went home frustrated.
The following day - the new kid came back - with a trick- he knelt down, scooped the ball up with his shirt - into his belly, never touching it with his hands and arms, and ran to the goal with the ball under his shirt and dumped the ball in.
Everyone laughed and cheered as he did it, it was really funny to watch. And his goal won the game... or did it? He missed the intent of the game. Technically he followed the rules, the ball never touched his hands. But he did not know about or care about all the unwritten rules. He did not play the game the way the other kids did as he saw them playing. That was too difficult.
Technically, the new kid got the goal... but soon after - the laughing stopped - no one was happy. …